THE YIN AND YANG OF IT

The Tai Chi symbol is the simplest and purest representation of the duality, polarity and dichotomy of absolutely all that was, is and will be.
Yin (black) is all that's within --- Yang (white) is all that's without;
Yin is SHE ---- Yang is HE
Yin is dark --- Yang's the spark of love, life, and ideas.
Yin receives what Yang conceives.
Female (Yin) genitalia lie hidden and protected in the darkness, waiting for Yang to invade, project and plant the seed of new life.
Then she nurtures the growth and development and gives birth....
While he waits on the sidelines watching.

Yang is sky -- heaven -- ethereal -- Yin is Earth -- ground -- terrestrial;
In times gone by, the Yang of the sky -- sun, rain, wind, -- interacted with the Yin of the ground -- seeds, roots, minerals, -- and they achieved Tai Chi -- absolution -- peace and completion. They complemented each other and were whole -- together -- as one.........
But now we live in a time when the Earth is being Yanged to death. So instead of encountering a Yin (receptive) Gaia, the Yang of the sky meets the Yang of Man -- and there's no way to Tai Chi because Yang on Yang makes a very big bang -- and not much else!
There's no way that any entity -- be it a couple, family, society, a business, a world or an individual -- can attain Tai Chi without first establishing an ever changing equilibrium of its basic, complementary polarities -- its Yin and Yang qualities; for that's what Tai Chi is all about -- a basic, elementary balance of complementary forces.

So, any woman who hasn't yet come to terms with her Yang side -- who still lives in denial and suppression of her natural masculine self -- can never live with a whole spirit. Her life's Tao (pronounced Dao) or Way is traveled in a state of near panic, for she devotes most of her energy and concentration to suppressing half of her self. The Yang half of her must be swallowed every time HE rises in her, for SHE was taught and is expected to be sugar and spice and everything nice. SHE is expected to be Yin at all times!! So SHE never learns to use her aggression, anger, ambition, and creativity in a self-serving manner. SHE is only destroyed by the Yang in her soul -- for every time SHE feels her Yangness rise -- whenever SHE get an emotional hard on as it were -- SHE's not only shot down by all the eyes outside herself -- SHE often initiates and always participates in her own stoning. SHE's generally the first and toughest one to strangle her own masculine side -- since its exposure is generally greeted with such destructive force, that outing it only leads to demeaning defeat. And when SHE can no longer stifle her Yangself, SHE generally and readily accepts that she is to blame -- there's something wrong with her -- SHE's guilty of committing a crime and so deserves the punishment that HE dishes out -- whether it be silent indifference or violent aggression.

The woman who hasn't yet come to terms with her masculine side generally reacts to male emotions such as anger, hatred, etc. by running inside to the comfort and security of guilt, shame and self-consciousness; emotions she's been experiencing since childhood. She gets mad at him, expresses the anger and scares herself. The emotional rush is so powerful and overwhelming that she herself must run and hide from it because all of her social training has taught her that such emotions are to be hidden away in one's soul. They must certainly not be vented. They shouldn't even be felt! Nice girls don't get royally pissed-off and throw a temper tantrum!

Because our women are taught from an early age that they should always be sweetness and light, they possess no skills to deal with themselves when the anger rush rises. They don't know the WAY to ride the rapids of rage. They've never been taught to experience strong anger emotions and use them creatively, because ever since childhood their expressions of rage have been greeted with: "Stop screaming!" or "Stop that right now!" or "Go to your room until you can behave like a good little girl."

I'll never forget the day I witnessed this scene:
Seven-year-old, adorable blond curls, bright and beautiful blue eyes -- exploded while in the grocery store with her father. What she exploded about is unimportant. Something happened and the tidal wave of emotion rose within her. She began to scream and cry and demand immediate attention.
Father of course was totally embarrassed over his child's behavior in a public place and had to take control of the situation immediately. Out came the sergeant-major in him. "Stop it" he hollered at her. "Stop it right now! You hear me? What's wrong with you? Why can't you behave like a lady?"
Her response made me want to hug her like I'd never hugged before. She looked up at him with those gorgeous blue eyes and said in her totally innocent and naive way: "Because I don't know how a lady behaves."
Good for her! I thought. She hasn't yet been taught that a "lady" stifles her frustration deep in her guts and her soul. She hadn't yet mastered the suicidal art of bottling up her rage so that it devours her from within, but you could be sure that before her father, and probably her mother too, were through with her, she'd learn to keep it all inside. Yes, it probably wouldn't take long until she learned to shut her mouth and smile sweetly, despite the fact that a temper tornado was devastating her soul.

A man who hasn't yet learned to love, accept, and nourish his Yin side has exactly the same problem. HE hates himself in a state of Yin, so he avoids emotional connections in order to escape the "woman" in him. He hates and fears his own Yin and therefore all Yin, because HE doesn't know how to deal with Yin emotions. His Yin side makes him vulnerable in this male dominated world we all share, and he's aware of the venom the masculine spirit can viciously pump with little provocation -- so every time he goes into Yin state --HE also goes ballistic with worry, suspicion, and mortal fear. And Yang don't like fear!! HE's been taught that HE's supposed to be fearless, courageous, bold -- willing to fight to the death for his loved ones -- and here he is quaking in his boxers and perhaps thinking about changing them for sanitary reasons.
Each time HE's overcome with one of those female emotions like love, pity or sympathy, HE has to hide what HE's feeling because his vulnerability and compassion -- his Yin side -- is showing and that leaves him open to attack from his enemies -- and HE knows how destructive Yang attacks can be!! Men have historically used their cocks as weapons -- against each other as well as against their women. If Brutus is mad at you Henry, he just might fuck your wife or your daughters repeatedly in order to punish you. Why he might even organize a gang rape party for your seventeen year old daughter and then leave her in the woods for dead -- just because he's pissed off over the fact that you owe him money and you ain't payin' him. So every good man walks around believing that he has to kill his Yin side in order to survive the fact that HE's Yang in a Yang world.

Thus, both sexes walk around hating and fearing each other and themselves -- from within and therefore from without. This hate and fear are a direct result of a single cause -- the attempt to deny our basic, dual nature and the nature of the COMPLEMENTS known as Yin and Yang. So, when we couple, we expect the man to be pure Yang and the woman to be pure Yin. We mistakenly assume that each partner should play a half rather than whole role. This is why the couple breaks down. It takes two whole, complete spirits to maintain a couple. As it takes Father Sky and Mother Earth to maintain our world.
Only the natural coupling of Yin and Yang in all things can lead us to Tai Chi -- peace and completion.

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